When you’re a kid it is a lot easier to make friends. As an adult, we don’t tend to use the phrase “So… do you want to be friends?” But maybe we should!
It can be hard being a new Mum when you don’t have like-minded people around you. Even if you have the most amazing family and friends in the world it can become difficult to engage with them in the same manner now that you have a little one. For instance, your Mum is wonderful but she had kids a lifetime ago! And your friends may not understand when you’re no longer saying to yes to all of their invitations.
New Mums not only understand your current circumstances (you know, sleep deprivation, sore boobs, the meaning of different colored poos!) they also provide a friendship circle for your little ones, ensuring essential play time for months or years to come.
It’s these types of people that we want to surround ourselves with. So where do we find them?
Antenatal classes
If you’re a first time Mum it’s likely you’ll be taking some antenatal classes. These classes are suggested by your midwives and although I was cautious when I first heard about them I am really glad Hubby and I went along. We learnt SO much by attending.
And, of course, you’ll be surrounded by couples that are due to give birth around the same time as you (normally within weeks) My classes gave you the opportunity to share email addresses and phone numbers with the teacher who would then loop everyone in. I found this made it much easier to broach the subject with another couple while in class!
Pregnancy workout classes (think water aerobics or yoga)
Again these classes can be referred to by your midwife or doctor, or you can look into what is available in your area. Making friends prior to the baby’s arrival can sometimes be a little easier, as you have more time on your hands. If there is someone there you mesh well with check if they are on maternity leave and organise a catch up!
Mothers Groups
When bub arrives your midwife may suggest a local community medical centre for check ins each week. While seeing the community nurses you’ll also be introduced to a Mothers Group, which will only include Mums with bubs of the same age. These groups are normally run onsite for the first 6 weeks, with the hope that the Mums will continue to meet up afterwards. And voila, an instant support system!
Facebook Groups
Definitely the easiest of all, especially for shy Mums! These groups allow you to interact with other Mums, whenever you get the chance, all without leaving the house. Alternatively, you can choose to meet up when you need to get out of the house (I actually recommend getting out of the house even if you’re hesitant and bub doesn’t seem in the mood – they seem to liven up around others, unless something is really up. And if they aren’t into it, just head back home!)
Normally the group activities mentioned take place over several weeks so look for people you would normally associate with in your class and continue to chat with them each week. If you’ve got babies around the same age, it really is beneficial down the track.
Don’t be shy to say “Do you want to catch up sometime?” Get amongst it!
Good luck Mumma!!
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