How I Became A Single Mother

How did I become a single mother?

Why did that question take so long to answer? Maybe because “becoming” a single mother was not a title I wanted my daughter to hear. I wanted it to be CHOOSING to be a single mother.

I want to raise my daughter knowing that she can choose to be whatever type of mother she wants to be. For her to know that I fully was in love, accepting, and overjoyed the second I found out she was growing in me.

I could have CHOSEN to be a co-parent with the “donor”

Which is what I call him since being a father is a title honorably earned, however, I did not want to expose my daughter to a being that did not deserve her love. A being that said and acted upon wanting to create life with me but when it occurred he did not even want to acknowledge her existence.

I DECIDED that I wanted my daughter to know and feel like her existence is such a great blessing to not only me but to everyone that meets her. She played “simon says” with me while she was in my tummy, she danced a lot in my tummy, and I dreamed of such a happy baby when I was pregnant that now proves dreams due come true.

Not only is she the happiest baby but the most loved one.

She has blessed my family and has changed every person’s life that enters hers. Of course, there were hard times in being a single mother and pregnant but it’s just because I feared that my daughter would question my effort in having her donor involved but I knew I gave it my all.

I called when I had her and also on her first birthday but no answer. Then I decided to stop. I had to acknowledge I did try my best and I still am. I decided to raise her knowing she is her own savior and does not need a prince to save her. I decided to show her an impeccable love that she will always know I will support her.

I decided that I will tell her the truth when she asks why I CHOSE to be a single mother to protect her. Protect her by modeling how a woman should be treated. I knew if I stayed or forced anything with the donor she would have an unrealistic idea of how a relationship should be because a child is raised into values not born into them.

It gets tough at times monetarily

But in all honesty, I was blessed with the most amazing little human.

Everything about her makes my heart skip a beat. If I had the choice, in which I am always asked, “would you have chosen differently if you could turn back time?” I always respond that I would have had a million of her in the same situation earlier if I knew how much love and euphoria was involved in raising, bonding, and creating a life such as hers.

I decided to be a single mother and I am proud to call myself a SINGLE MOTHER.

Follow Elizabeth on her journey on Instagram @elicruz.