Becoming A Teen Mom And All I Went Through

I never knew I would become a teen mom.

On easter, 2019, I was 21 days late. I didn’t think I was pregnant, I always told myself that that couldn’t happen to me. I was wrong, Easter morning, I saw the two lines on that pregnancy test and I felt that deep fear in my stomach. I was only fifteen, my boyfriend and I had been dating for about six months.

He didn’t have much of a reaction when he found out, he and I immediately, with no discussion, assumed we would keep it. I told my mom later that night and she was prepared to educate me on options, she was happy I was going to keep it and my entire family supported me. My boyfriend’s family did not support him.

My boyfriend and I had a good summer after that, he wasn’t the best boyfriend and he dreaded the fact that we were having a baby but I thought he supported me.

Fast forward to fall, he started losing his mind. He started calling me fat, showing obvious interests in other girls, and showing nothing but absolute disrespect towards me. I had an easy, and healthy pregnancy, but that was when my mental health started to get bad. I had trouble eating and sleeping and I was six months pregnant. I became crazy, I felt alone. He ghosted me a lot, it caused me a lot of trauma.

On Dec 28, 2019, I was induced, and he was there ASAP. I had a quick and easy labor and at 3:51 am our baby girl was born. We named her Eve Noell, we call her Evie. She was 7lbs 8oz, she was perfect.

Being postpartum and 16 was completely miserable. I had severe PP depression and I was even more out of my mind than I had ever been in my life. I was completely crazy and in pain and nobody had ever told me how hard postpartum was, I never thought it would be that awful, but it was the most miserable I had ever been and it felt like nobody understood.

As a teen mom, I feel like I have matured a lot more, despite the drama that I went through with the father and the craziness I experienced, I knew I was destined to be a mom and I always wanted to be a mom, it just happened to be a little bit too early, but that’s okay.

I dropped everything and I’ve been a full-time mom for Evie ever since then, I have struggled quite a bit, but I have had a lot of help and I have been doing the best that I possibly can, just like any mom does.

My baby girl is almost nine months old and she is getting so big and I feel so lucky to be her mommy. It’s not “normal” to have a baby at my age, but that’s fine, I am happy with how my life is, and not a day goes by where I regret choosing to be a mom.

Follow Ally and Evie on Instagram @ally_roumas.