I Was Infertile For 7 Years Until I Did This

I call her my Miracle baby

Why Miracle?

It took a long time, 7 years. I cried, I felt hopeless, angry, made myself ill. I took 3 pregnancy tests every week, went for an acupuncture treatments, waking up every morning at 5am to check my basal temperature, had a “million” blood tests done, had my tubes flushed with a dye, had a laparoscopy done, because they found 2 cysts on my ovaries, I was putting pressure on my other half (come on, I’m ovulating) and all that didn’t work. I was giving up.

Went to the hospital for a consultation with a doctor. I couldn’t stop crying.

I made a big decision that day. I asked for an IVF referral. After leaving the room, I felt relieved (honestly, that was my 1st hardest decision, because I was there on my own).

I said to myself. Now or never (as I was nearly giving up). I was so desperate for a baby, I wanted it so bad!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

After leaving the hospital, something changed. I don’t know what. I think I was relying on IVF “yes” I thought “this will definitely work”.

I relaxed more. We booked our holiday to Bali for October 2017, but before then went on another mini holiday in August.

I was enjoying my life. I didn’t put pressure on anything or my other half. When we got back, we were going to start IVF and everything would be fine.

Two weeks later, while we were on our mini holiday (in August), I felt funny. I couldn’t sunbathe (I love sunbathing), I felt bloated, I didn’t fancy my favourite strawberry mojito….but there was no way I could be pregnant.

I went and bought two pregnancy tests.

Next morning, I did the test. And ……”+ (2-3 weeks)” flashed on the test screen.

I felt numb. I couldn’t believe it. Of course, I was the happiest person in the whole world but whattttt!!!!!

I got back home from our mini holiday and I had my IVF paperwork waiting for me and the date for starting the treatment and all the consultations was 28.10.2017.

I picked up the phone and rang them to cancel the IVF.

Unfortunately we had to cancel Bali as well due to Zika, we didn’t want to risk.

9 months went by quite quickly. Ups and downs and all around.

I went from size 6, to size 18. I enjoyed all the food, mainly doughnuts. And people just kept feeding me😊. Well, little madam was happy inside. She was probably enjoying all the doughnuts. My due day was 24.4. 2018.

Arya Julia was born on the 30.4.2018, weighing 9lb 3oz.

She just turned 2. She is so amazing, funny, smart, cheeky, and a naughty booby monster.

Her favourite word in NO!

I’m thankful I have her. She is hard work, but she is my life. My love for her has no limits.

I call her my Miracle because she is a miracle.

What changed you may ask – I strongly believe it was the fact that I didn’t think about it anymore, I relaxed, I let go and just like that with no effort, it happened.

❤️❤️❤️

P and P – A lot of women suffer from infertility and it’s a ray of sunlight when we see someone who has traveled that journey and come out with a beautiful bundle of joy. How did you handle people always asking when you would have a baby?

Zuzana – Oh it was a never-ending story. Every time someone asked me, I would run away and cry. I felt depressed.

P and P – Did you have any issues during pregnancy?

Zuzana – I was 37 and my doctor told me she would have downs syndrome. I never told my family because I didn’t want to scare them and truth be told downs syndrome wouldn’t have changed anything for us. She is 2 years old now.

P and P – Does she have Down syndrome?

Zuzana – No she doesn’t but they told me after my 1st scan there was a huge chance.

P and P – Like you said, it wouldn’t have changed anything :).

Zuzana – No absolutely no!

P and P – Did you take any fertility pills through the 7 years or any other medication?

Zuzana – We tried the the his and hers vitamins (for conceiving) and folic acid.

P and P – Did the doctor ever say what they thought the problem was?

Zuzana – No and I’m sure it was me. The pressure! I wanted a baby!!!!!! I was losing my mind.

P and P – Did you ever see a specialist when you noticed something was wrong in the first few years?

Zuzana – I went to see a doc to check my tubes. I was worried they were blocked. When I had them flushed with the dye, they found the cysts on my ovaries and I had laparoscopy. But even after those treatments, nothing happened for 3 years

P and P – Did this cause a strain in your marriage and how did you pull through?

Zuzana – A little bit but nothing serious. Checking my calendar when I was ovulating really didn’t help.

P and P – Would you be having any more kids?

Zuzana – I would, but I’m turning 40 in July. When Arya is a little bit older, we’ll probably foster a child.

P and P – Happy birthday in advance and that’s beautiful. After having Arya, what were the three baby products you couldn’t do without?

Zuzana – Hmm.. deffo baby water wipes,
Cream (yellow metanium) for a baby rash When she was tiny and,
Breastfeeding pads.

P and P – What’s your greatest advice to any woman currently struggling with infertility?

Zuzana – Whoever is reading this fighting with infertility, I know it is very very hard, but please don’t give up! Take it easy and don’t be hard on yourself. Pregnancy, IVF, adoption, fostering…. your baby will need you strong and healthy. Don’t give up. Of course have all their checks done, and if it doesn’t happen, you can give a life to a child (adoption or fostering). But definitely don’t give up.

P and P – Bonus question. How long have you been following Pregnant and Perfect? 🙂

Zuzana – For a looooooong time. You guys are doing a good job 😍.

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