Being The Best Mother To Your Child

Motherhood is an endless journey; a never-ending cycle that graduates into phases as the years go by. From the moment you birth your child(ren) until they leave the nest, you have a role to play in their lives.

In our world today, we witness/hear a lot of stories about people who have walked out on their mothers and never looked back. This happens for numerous reasons but it shouldn’t be so. Family is the one place where every single person really belongs. At this moment you can’t imagine (neither can we) the child who are nuturing, nursing and raising growing up to become an adult who would abandon you- even the mere thought of it hurts

There’s no guide to motherhood but there are basic qualities every mother should possess and instill in the life of her child(ren). Every mother should;

COMMUNICATE

Communication is key! Communicate with your child(ren) especially during the formative years. Talk about everything and anything- how you feel, what you think, the weather, tell stories, sing songs, teach morals and values- and let them talk back. This would make the adolescence/teenage years a lot easier for you. Your child(ren) need to know that they can always talk to you.

Make your home a safe, judgement-free space for you and your child(ren) to be vulnerable with each other. Communication is the foundation on which trust and close-knit relationships are built.

TEACH THEM TO LOVE

To a lot of people, love is an intense feeling but it is beyond that. Love is kindness, love is compassion and love is empathy. You do not intentionally hurt the ones you love and when you do, you are quick to make things right. Learning to love is a lifetime lesson for everyone but the foundation must be built in the lives of our children. The best way to teach your little ones to love is to show love to them and everyone around you every single day of your life. Be kind, be empathic, be compassionate and be human.

FORGIVE THEM

When your children do something wrong, forgive them. Sometimes their actions might hurt you and you deal with the hurt by communicating how their actions have hurt you or someone else. Correct them with kind words and say ‘I forgive you’

After forgiving, it’s of utmost importance that you do not keep records of their wrongdoings. Reminding them of something they did in the past when something else aries is hurtful. Forgive and let go.

APOLOGIZE

You could offend your child too. Whenever you realize that you are in the wrong, never feel too proud or be ashamed to offer an apology. In this way, you’d be teaching your child to also apologize when the need arises.

DEFEND THEM

Do not let anyone pick on your child and get away with it. Your child(ren) have to know that come what may, mama’s got their back. This would strengthen their self-confidence and help them realize that you would do anything to protect them.

We are imperfect people but we can be perfect mothers. It’s our duty to plant seeds of love, kindness and forgiveness in the hearts of our little ones so they’d grow to be good responsible people. In a world filled with so much hate and unhappiness, let our children be the salve that heal our world.